The Institute of Human Intimacy
Intimacy is a human technology
The capacity to be present, honest, embodied, and responsive with self, others, power, desire, fear, grief, and pleasure — this is not a gift some are born with. It is a skill that can be studied, practiced, trained, and ethically held.
We understand emotional regulation, attachment, trauma, and literacy itself as baseline human competencies we failed to transmit at scale.
Intimacy belongs in that list.
This is not a niche failure. It's a civilizational one.
The Question We Answer
"What does it take for humans to meet each other deeply, truthfully, and safely in an era of disconnection, trauma, and power imbalance?"
The Three-Body Problem of Intimacy
Your Unique Constellation
Every human navigates intimacy through three gravitational fields that never resolve into equilibrium. Understanding your position in this space is the beginning of conscious development.
Vessel
How You Practice
The container that holds your work — whether internal or relational, regulated or intense, cognitive or embodied. Your vessel shapes what kinds of intimacy you can hold.
Self ←→ Relational
Regulated ←→ Intensity
Cognitive ←→ Embodied
Compass
What Orients You
The frame through which you make meaning — traditional or esoteric, structured or emergent, individual or collective. Your compass determines where you look for truth.
Traditional ←→ Esoteric
Structure ←→ Emergence
Individual ←→ Collective
Current
What Moves Through You
The living forces themselves — desire and devotion, power and surrender, containment and dissolution. These currents move whether you acknowledge them or not.
Eros ←→ Agape
Power ←→ Surrender
Containment ←→ Dissolution
What This Is Not
- — A sex school
- — A kink club
- — A psychedelic retreat brand
- — A spiritual bypass playground
- — Self-help or entertainment
What This Is
- + Research-driven
- + Lineage-aware
- + Structured, teachable, transmissible
- + Trauma-informed
- + Ethics as practice, not policy
Begin with understanding where you are
The assessment maps your current position across all three spheres — your vessel, your compass, your currents. Not a type. Not a diagnosis. Coordinates, and a direction.
Take the Assessment"We've played at the edges of consciousness, desire, and power long enough. Now it's time to build something that can outlive personalities and protect people."